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Mrs. Trejo's avatar

Don’t bypass the need to mourn. To be honest I am still mid read in your post. But, I had to stop. For me bypassing the need to mourn only hit me so much worse later.

I was so proud of being strong, leaning into my faith and moving forward.

But, I truly wasn’t. I was glossing over. It was bubbling under until it blew.

Then the pain and rawness hit all over again.

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Shannon Donald's avatar

For what it's worth, it's also okay sometimes to not jump in to assure us that "it's been so beautiful, too".

I became chronically ill as a teenager and I'm only now, with children of my own, just beginning to catch a glimmer of what it must have been and meant for my mother. Hang in there.

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Merideth Ochs's avatar

I needed this. Thank you for sharing, Nell!

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Emily H.'s avatar

Thank you for this. Been deeply mourning--lamenting--the sudden and unexpected transfer of our beloved parish priest (who was also my confessor). 6 weeks after I thought our parish had escaped the May transfers, thought we could keep him for a 4th year...he's being transferred. And I've cried.

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